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Charlotte Moore has three children: the two oldest, George and Sam, are autistic; the youngest Jake is not. In this extraordinary book, which combines personal memoir with the most recent known information on this most fascinating and elusive of conditions, she describes the circumstances of their birth, behaviour, diagnosis, treatment - and brilliantly conveys what dailyCharlotte Moore has three children: the two oldest, George and Sam, are autistic; the youngest Jake is not. In this extraordinary book, which combines personal memoir with the most recent known information on this most fascinating and elusive of conditions, she describes the circumstances of their birth, behaviour, diagnosis, treatment - and brilliantly conveys what daily life is like for a family with autism. It's an invaluable book for anyone with an interest in childhood and child development....

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  • Elizabeth
    2019-05-09 20:56

    I've been trying to read this ever since I stumbled across an excerpt in Nick Hornby's The Polysyllabic Spree and finally got my hands on it through interlibrary loan. I kind of read it in one sitting. It is brilliant. It is funny and heartbreaking and fascinating and tender and every good adjective I can think of. Moore is tough as nails and clear-eyed in her gaze on her two non-neurotypical sons (who are, in her words, "autistic through and through"), but when she talks about how much she adores them, the lady doth not protest too much. You believe her. You believe that while every day brings fresh frustration, it also brings joy of a kind she cannot really convey.I am ridiculously in love with Jake, her youngest -- who is neurotypical -- and the one thing I would like to see in a second edition which is almost wholly lacking in this one is an examination of Jake's relationship with his brothers. Since reading copperbadge's discussion of the prodigal son and siblings of the non-neurotypical, I have become much more sensitive to this (not to the extent of, uh, talking to my sister about how my depression affects her, but baby steps). Obviously, a five-year-old (which is how old Jake was at this writing) can't really have the same kind of deep conflict that Sam has or that my sister probably has, but I remain troubled by Moore's blithe assertion that she does not want Jake to feel responsible for the care of his brothers when he's older. I'm just not sure how she's planning to make that happen, especially since she doesn't seem to have a clear sense of what could or would happen to her sons if and when she can no longer care for them herself. It is clear to Moore and to the reader that George and Sam almost certainly will not be able to live independently as adults, but there is a real...blitheness is the only word I can think of, to her tone, when she talks about it.But as a whole? OMG SO GOOD.(Also, please God, if only Charlotte Moore were the face for parents with autistic children, instead of Jenny McCarthy. The world would be better off.)

  • Reindert Van Zwaal
    2019-05-04 01:53

    I quite liked this book, it gave immensely useful insights in the youth of a lower functioning autist. I'm quite familiar with the subject, though not very much with the more severe part of the autism spectrum. Having no sense of future, mainly enjoying toys and nature because of their physical features, and pretty much any concept our world is built around is quite astonishing. A really interesting read, and even after reading this highly detailed book it is still hard to imagine how you perceive the world if you are severely autistic. Only downside of the book I can think of is that the story switches back and forth quite a bit and is sometimes repetitive.

  • Nicholas Whyte
    2019-05-03 01:06[return][return]This is a brilliant book about living with autism in your family. I found myself experiencing painful shocks of recognition every few pages, from the experience of the moreneurotypical sibling, to the necessity of keeping important things (such as sugar and toothpaste) locked up, to the unintentional unkindnesses of friends and relatives. Our two girls are very different from Moore s two boys, and all four are of course very different from each otherneither of ours can talk, while both of hers can; she has had more success with toilet training than we have; her boys apparently get along well with each other, while our four-year-old U is somewhat frightened of her ten-year-old sister B (who normally blithely ignores U, but has occasionally pulled her hair). Also, of course, she has managed to keep both of hers at home so far, whereas we are now expecting B to move out to full-time residential care in the next couple of months. Another extremely important difference is that my wife and I are still together. (Incidentally, I also realized that I know Moore s father through liberal politics.) There are many good lines in the book, but I ll just take this one from near the end as a good summary of the common ground I found with her:[return][return]"These mysterious, impossible, enchanting beings will always be among us, unwitting yardsticks for our own moral behaviour, uncomprehending challengers of our definition of what it means to be human."[return][return]You couldn t take this book as an essential medical text on autism. Nick Hornby in his introduction makes parallels with Wild Swans and Claire Tomalin s life of Pepys, but I think that s a mistake: both of those are deeply factual books which we should take as serious academic contributions to the histories of China and of seventeenth-century England. (For instance, Moore writes about experiments with diet as a way of improving her children s condition, but her account should be taken as a personal history rather than a medical recommendation; we ve tried that and it made no difference apart from making B grumpy because there was no cheese.) I think a better parallel is with Rebecca West s amazing Black Lamb and Grey Falcon, which is misleading and possibly even dangerous if taken as a factual history of Yugoslavia, but if read correctly as a human response to the experience of the Balkans is one of the great books of the twentieth century. Anyway, this is a great account of an important part of my world by someone who shares it.

  • Sandy D.
    2019-05-04 02:02

    A compelling, amazing, eye-opening book - part memoir, part educational non-fiction about autism. I had another very good book going, but when I picked this up I abandoned it because I couldn't put this down. It's funny, beautiful, fascinating, and like Nick Hornby says in the foreword, asks - and more impressively, answers - important questions, questions that apply to all of us:To what extent are we really prepared to accommodate our children? Are we properly equipped to love them the way they are?...Do six After Eights constitute a decent breakfast?Here's a couple of excerpts that I loved: about the GF/CF diet (which works well for one of her kids and not for the other), and food in general:There are some autistic children who eat healthy, balanced meals three times a day. There must be. I'd guess it would be most unlikely that the parents of such children would consider tampering with their diet. There are many, many more children who, like Sam, live on a diet of crisps, fingernail clippings, and fresh air. When you decide to change a diet like this you've got little to lose, and possibly a great deal to gain (p. 115-6).On psychotherapy:Having any bright, kind, sympathetic adult interact closely with your autistic child on a regular basis is a good thing, and so as far as that goes, psychotherapy could be of use. But I feel that, as a system, it underestimates the autisticness of autism and misinterprets symptoms that may well have an organic rather than a psychological origin. I did smile quietly to myself when George pooed in his pants in the therapy room, and his therapist told me that she was "glad that he felt able to bring something to the session". Hmmm. Beware of geeks bearing gifts. (p. 150).Honestly, this book has everything - excellent chapters on schooling, different types of therapies, on how to help the parents of any autistic kids you know, on diagnosis, on Asperger's and the history of treatment and diagnosis, food, religion (and the Tooth Fairy), and sleep. I would love to hear what parents of autistic kids think of this book. It is also fun for reading about Great Britain - oast houses, Aga stoves, etc.

  • Megan
    2019-05-27 03:08

    I don’t know anyone on the autism spectrum, but I picked up this book out of interest in the condition. I’ve always been interested in how the human brain works. Therefore I couldn’t approach this book the way I think many of its readers probably are: as parents, or caregivers, or family members of a person with autism, looking for answers or maybe just another perspective. I can’t say how useful the book would be to someone in that situation, though I’m inclined to say that I would have found information and a bit of comfort in the pages if I were.Charlotte Moore is the single mother of three boys, two of which are autistic. Her youngest son is “neurotypical,” ie, not autistic, and normally functioning. As a writer, she’s able to spend her days at home, and she provides her perspective on her sons growing up. She compares her eldest, George, to her middle child, Sam, who’s arguably the most limited of the pair, and she compares the both of them to her youngest, Jake. She provides a chronicle of their lives from birth to diagnosis all the way up to their current ages, with George poised on the brink of puberty.The author does jump around a bit, which can be slightly confusing as we are introduced to the three children and their lives. It’s not so much a chronological journey as it is a topical one. She jumps from the boys’ food habits to their verbalization (they all say very funny things, and it made me laugh out loud once or twice, providing part of the humor of the book), to their schooling to the various methods she and the father of the boys attempted to bring words and emotions to their daily lives. The jumping around also leads to a slight repetitiveness which becomes the most pervasive during the middle of the book.She’s very positive, and you can tell she adores her three sons. It seems she is in a relatively unique position to provide them a lot of one-on-one care and be very involved in their lives. Moore also has the capability to step back and distance herself so that she never seems too biased in any direction.The book definitely provided me with a new perspective on autism, and a new understanding of the mindset of people who are autistic.

  • Ellie
    2019-04-27 22:46

    This book provides fascinating insight into the world of autism. I must say, I don't think I could cope, after reading of the challenges the author faces in raising her sons. Both boys seemed normal into toddler-hood, even of advanced intelligence, especially George, the older of the two. By the time George was exhibiting learning and behavior problems, Sam was growing into completely different personality traits, and so was believed to be "neurotypical." Sam eventually had a great regression and has had much more profound problems than George. The author can see things in hindsight that were indicators for autism, but for nearly 4 years, family doctors and other experts missed all of the signs. This book describes the behaviors of the boys (oftentimes wacky) and accommodations that their mother makes for them, and for her 3rd son, who does not have autism. (At some point in her journey, she became a single mother; it goes unsaid, but probably the stresses of caring for the boys caused her marriage to fail). There are many funny descriptions, many sad, touching moments. It was a compulsively readable book for me, so I can only imagine how much more so it would be if you had an autist in your family. A few descriptions of clinical research interested me less, thus 4 stars instead of 5. Charlotte Moore is not only a vastly talented writer, but moved me to tears several times in her love for the boys and the sacrifices she has made for them.

  • Natalie
    2019-05-16 02:43

    I read this for my book club, and it was chosen by a member who works as an aide in a classroom with autistic children. It's not a book I would have chosen to read on my own, but I'm really glad I read it. I learned a great deal about autism -- especially day-to-day family life with autists. I liked the author very much -- I think it was fascinating to read about autism from the perspective of a mother of two autistic children (and one "neurotypical" child). I liked how she enlightened her readers about childhood autism and shared her experiences and opinions without being overly critical of the theories/opinions of others. I liked the realtistic yet positive attitude she exhibited -- it definitely wasn't a "look at how hard my life is -- you should feel really sorry for me" type of book...although you do feel an incredible amount of respect (and sympathy) for this courgeous single mom (even though that is clearly not the intent of her book). I think it was well-written, though it was a bit slow for me to get through at times -- not a real page-turner. But, I continued reading because I felt compelled by my conscience to finish...and I'm glad I did.

  • Katy-Del
    2019-04-28 23:50

    My son's teacher suggested it. It is a mom writing about her 3 children, the oldest 2 are autistic and the 3rd is not. I have real respect with a woman who looks around and then just gets on with it. She describes just about every possibel theoropy that she could get for her boys and the effects. She details how hard each day is for her as a single mother. She talks about how bad the badest times were and how things have improved for her family. The forward is by Nick Hornby, the writer of About a Boy and A Long Way Down. I didn't know that he too ha an autistic son. I liked it, but my mom didn't finish. She said it was too depressing to her. I think that's more because my son is more autistic than she really wants to believe he is and reading about two boys who have a lot of the same behaviors, even if they are more extreme, is really painful to her.

  • Gillian
    2019-05-09 00:50

    I don't think I realised how common it was for one family to have two autistic children, or that there was a strong genetic component, until I read George and Sam, the story of two boys in Charlotte Moore's family (and there is a third boy, who does not have autism).Moore writes so well, without sentiment and with a lot of wit and humour, that lovely dry British sense of humour, that you may well overlook just how hard her life as a single parent to two very challenging kids must be.Thoroughly recommended for parents of younger autistic children. As one other reviewer has suggested, if only mothers like Moore were the poster girls for autism to the world and not the Jenna McArthys of the world!

  • Sael Vera vazqz
    2019-05-17 18:55

    This is a real good book autism and what it mean about the condition and everything around it. It's beautiful, heartbreaking, interesting, amazing and is definitely well explained in every aspect. I read a small selection of in the Nick Hornby The Polysyllabic Spree and fell in love just with those pages. Charlotte More it's not only an amazing wonder-women, it's a real well prepared and experienced person to give everyone her story about what it takes to care and love children with this diagnostic. In my job as a health care of children have being crossed with many of them and now finally know what it's about and what I have to do in order to help and support them and their families. Hardly recommend this book for those who want to know what is autism and what it takes to care them.

  • Elin Barrett
    2019-05-10 20:56

    I went through a long phase in my life of reading as many books as I could get my hands on which were true stories of children with autism. Now it's been a while since I've read any of those books, but I still find myself regularly going back to George and Sam. It tells the story of Charlotte Moore bringing up three sons, two of which suffer from autism. Although it would be easy for her to focus on all the problems she's had bringing up three sons single-handed, instead she focuses on the good points that come with her three sons, making the book at once meaningful and funny. Hightly recommended!

  • Teresa
    2019-05-06 21:44

    This is another non-fiction piece. So far all the non-fiction that I've been reading have taken me a bit longer to get through, but are still good books. Charlotte Moore's experiences are quite fascinating and I honestly don't know how anyone could survive raising 2 drastically different autistic children. This book really helped me to understand more about autism, but I wish the book would've touched more on how to deal with autistic children. I feel quite inadequate when it comes to working with ADD/ADHD/autistic children.

  • Jessie
    2019-05-09 22:46

    I loved the way this mom embraces her sons, autism and all. The beauty of this book is its honesty. Moore doesn't sugarcoat or pretty up her life with two autistic sons. Yet even in the frustrations and anger, there is love and acceptance for her boys as they are. To parents of high functioning autistic children, it can be a bit depressing as her sons both face very real struggles in daily life. But that also gives a face to the other side of the autism spectrum -- one that tends to be overlooked by pop culture.

  • Amy
    2019-05-23 19:55

    I can't even begin to praise this book enough. Moore deftly explains autism, from concept of self to strange eating habits, with just the right balance of research and personal experience. Her focus is not on cause or cure or anything like that. This is a book about how autistic children can only be what they are, and why that's really not so bad. I fell in love with Moore's sons, and an inspired to learn more about this important topic.

  • Castiron
    2019-05-13 02:43

    A fascinating look into a family with two autistic sons (and one neurotypical).What's particularly helpful about this book is how it shows autism affecting the two boys differently. Their impairments are different; their treatments are different. Strong ammunition against the "this one thing will cure your child's autism, guaranteed!" crowd.

  • Ellen
    2019-05-19 02:44

    An exceptional book on a fascinating topic. I love the way Charlotte allows us into her life with the boys, so frank and unsentimentalized. But she manages to covey her true devotion and acceptance of them as individuals. I will never forget, "Sam is better at being autistic than anyone else." She is a great writer, and apparently, a great mum.

  • Iamshadow
    2019-05-10 01:53

    I don't think I can describe how much I love this book. Charlotte is a single mum of three boys, two autistic, one neurotypical. She loves them and embraces them. She describes George and Sam as being 'autistic through and through', not holding to the common idea of a NT child 'trapped inside' by autism. Beautiful descriptions of day to day life living with kids on the autistic spectrum.

  • Kellyhiselman
    2019-05-07 02:42

    Beautiful, moving, real-life account of a mother's daily experience with her two autistic sons in England. When I found this book last fall, I can remember falling in love with this family and their support system of individuals who are woven into the fabric of their lives to help meet the needs of these beautiful boys and their mom -- a subject near and dear to my own heart.

  • Sue
    2019-05-12 20:00

    This was an amazing book, that was written from the perspective of a mom dealing with two sons who have autism, and one son who is neurotypical. She was honest and truly provided an insight into the joys and frustration of livng with three boys who are all very different. As a teacher and mom who is not dealing with autism 24/7 I needed to hear this perspective.

  • Ellen
    2019-05-14 22:03

    The author has two autistic sons, her acceptance of their status, and clear eyed description of their life provides an honest window into autism and life with autistic children without the slightest trace of self-pity. The introduction by Nick Hornby (who also has an autistic son,) is a gem on its own.

  • Hannah Wingfield
    2019-05-10 22:56

    A very informative and honest book, though I felt Charlotte Moore could have done more to acknowledge how her financial privilege impacted on her situation/made it easier than it would have been for a working class family unable to afford so much outside support.

  • Rachel
    2019-05-25 01:47

    This book was very interesting. I learned much about autism and about being a parent to an autistic child. Her writing style was hard for me to get in too, but I did enjoy reading it, it just took me longer than it usually does to finish a book. :)

  • Cheryl
    2019-05-18 02:02

    Moore has 2 sons with autism, and a younger son without. It is fascinating to get a glimpse of the autistic world; most of all, a wonderful portrait of a mother trying to learn what unconditional love is and how to interpret her sons to provide safety and happiness for the whole family.

  • Kristen
    2019-04-30 22:01

    I quite enjoyed George and Sam and this mother experiences living with two boys with autism. Many parts were interesting, humorous and knowledgeable. I have read many book about families and autism and I haven't endured the thought that children with autism have troubles with the believes on Tooth Fairy, Santa Claus, God and etc. due to the here and now perceptive. This make perfect sense if you think about it. Although George and Sam, in the book, did have specific dietary needs and gluten/ casein-free did work for one of the boys, Charlotte Moore didn't force what worked for her on other people. She is all about what works for one family doesn't necessary work for another. The last thing I found interesting was her take and thoughts about education and inclusion. She wasn't oppose to inclusion but state that inclusion isn't for every child. Her children were in inclusion from the start but, with all parents of both typical and non-typical children, she learnt that mainstreaming her boys weren't working and the boys would do much better in a specialize school and ABA therapies. At first I was taken aback because I believe inclusion 100% for both the non-typical and the typical children in a educational setting, but as I read on I also agree d with Charlotte Moore in her views. It comes down to whatever fits the child and where the child can best learn to their abilities. Again, it makes perfect sense.

    2019-05-25 19:40

    This was one of the best books I have read about a mother describing her sons' Autism and the history of their behaviors, with the background info on her diaries and offered so much insight into how certain situations were handled. The woman is a writer by trade so it's very well-written, as well filled with so many humorous anecdotes and well crafted stories on her sons. Plenty of references and suggestions on what to read and how certain literature helped her. I enjoyed this book so much and it helped that I have worked with children on the spectrum for years. I wish all mothers could be as devoted and invested in their sons' lives as this mother is.

  • Tittirossa
    2019-05-02 20:57

    Nella prefazione, Nick Hornby dice che è un gran libro, non solo perché Moore ha raggiunto vette di consapevolezza sull'autismo che sono molto difficili da conquistare (soprattutto se si hanno ben 2 figli autistici!), ma perché scrive veramente bene. E' vero. Quando ti ritrovi a sghignazzare su uno dei suoi aneddoti raccontati in un crescendo comico-drammatico, pensi che ha avuto un gran dono: la Scrittura. (inoltre, mi sono resa conto che in tutti noi c'è una particella di autismo, più o meno grande, più o meno espressa)

  • Readyourselfhealthy
    2019-04-30 23:03

    This is the story of a mother with two autistic sons and as well as one typically developing son--or neurotypical which is how she referred to him when she wasn't calling him normal. Really at times it seems like an 'us' and 'them' scenario that she was describing, though not in a mean-spirited way. Based on my viewpoint, it was difficult for me not to be frustrated with a person holding the viewpoint that autism is genetic. But at the time of this book's printing, this was still the prevailing attitude. It is unfortunate for her sons, as they seem like really great kids. I originally thought I did not like this book much as it does not match my own viewpoint that autism is treatable, but I have found that I needed to come back to the review as I took more away from the book than I thought. It is excellent in its description of living with autism. With two sons that are affected, the author has seen almost every behavior and describes them well. I found myself taking comfort in the fact that even though my son is only eating two foods right now, and has been for at least two weeks, the author has seen every type of food rejection and I didn't feel nearly as bad. There is something very comforting about reading about someone going through the same thing and surviving. So though her sons remain autistic, it is clear that the author loves them very much. It is a great book to discover what it is like to live with autism, from someone who has seen it from many angles.

  • Rosdiana
    2019-05-08 19:43

    Awalnya beli buku ini karena tertarik dengan nama 'Autis' yang menjadi tema buku. Saya penasaran bagaimana kehidupan seorang penderita autis dan bagaimana hal tersebut mempengaruhi orang-orang di sekitarnya.Jawabannya ditulis lengkap di buku ini, melalui sudut pandang seorang ibu yang bukan hanya memiliki seorang anak autis tapi dua sekaligus.Efek setelah ngebaca buku ini banyak. Mulai dari terharu dengan kisah-kisah yang menyentuh, tersenyum karena tingkah-tingkah yang gak biasa dan akhirnya setelah menutup buku dan duduk sejenak saya mulai merasa kesal. Ya, saya kesal dengan orang-orang yang suka mengejek dengan membawa-bawa nama autis.Saya masih ingat ada seorang teman yang meneriaki salah seorang teman lain 'Autis' karena ia duduk sendiri di pojok ruangan. Saya juga masih ingat banyak acara humor konyol di TV yang membawa-bawa nama autis seolah-olah itu sesuatu yang memang layak ditertawakan.'George and Sam' benar-benar buku yang ngebuka mata kita. Bikin kita lebih paham. Bikin kita sejenak berpikir bagaimana jika kita berada di posisi mereka -George dan Sam mungkin tidak memusingkan apa yang dipikirkan orang lain, tapi mereka sama seperti kita, manusia. Bagaimana perasaan keluarga mereka? 'George and Sam' Bikin kita lebih menghargai apa yang kita punya.It's a must read.

  • Fayette
    2019-05-01 20:07

    This was a very interesting book about a woman with three sons. Two of them have autism. I couldn't help compare it to the book, Bloom, finding beauty in the unexpected, by Kelle Hampton. Hampton wrote about her experience of giving birth to a daughter with Down's syndrome. It was REALLY emotional (like I cried for almost the whole book). Moore wrote this book in a much more constrained way. I didn't cry, or even feel sorry for her or her sons, which I'm sure is more what she intended. Most of the book is about her journey and her search for understanding her sons and autism. She could have talked about her divorce, her husbands breakdown, or any other emotional topics, but she chose not to. I would recommend this book to anyone interested in learning about and understanding autism. If Moore isn't an expert, I don't know who is.

  • Leslie
    2019-05-14 01:08

    I read this book because it was recommended by Nick Hornby in The Polysyllabic Spree. He has a son with autism, and he highly recommended this book as not only a realistic look at life with autistic children, but just a very funny and well-written book in general. I don't have any close ties to people on the autistic spectrum, but I have known some autistic kids, and it's a pretty fascinating condition in general. I did think this book was very well-written, but I think I was expecting it to be a little more of a memoir about Moore's life with her sons specifically, with not quite as much non-fictiony information about autism in general. It was very educational, though, and I did enjoy her writing, so I'm still quite glad that I read it.