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To Michael, coming out to his family over dinner seemed like the perfect way to finally get noticed. But an unexpected phone call interrupts his announcement -- Aunt Evie is dead. Now Michael, his boyfriend, and his dysfunctional family must prepare for the funeral....

Title : It's All Relative
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ISBN : 9781411615137
Format Type : Paperback
Number of Pages : 371 Pages
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It's All Relative Reviews

  • Kaje Harper
    2019-03-14 04:50

    3.5 rounded up. This one was tough for me to rate - on the positive side, the writing is good and the realism is notable. This is all about family dynamics - Michael brings his serious boyfriend Dan home to meet his family, as he finally comes out to Mom, Dad, big brother and little sister. But his big announcement has barely been made, with his mother's dismay just dawning, when a phone call tells them that beloved Great-Aunt Evie has died. Suddenly the whole family is headed to Sugar Creek, Mike's summer refuge and the place he learned a lot about who he was, for the funeral and the dismantling of Aunt Evie's memory-filled home.There is a lot of truth to the fact that when you suddenly go home and find yourself under stress, surrounded by siblings and aunts and cousins, it's not unusual to devolve into some immature teen version of yourself. Your adulthood can be suddenly lost in the wave of familiar relationships. A lot of the squabbling and teasing and dynamics rang very real here. At the same time, Mike devolves into immaturity a hell of a lot. He acts more 14 than 24. There is a lot of pushing and kicking, laughing at others' errors. I felt sorry for brother Ray, who is clearly limited in some way, who knows not what he says and does, but is always in the wrong and the butt of jokes. When Mike expresses his grief over losing Evie, I cut him some slack, but when he drags out the drama over and over, it wears thin. I've known a family or two where this dynamic plays out, adults acting like pre-teens when they get together. Very real, but not always sympathetic. There are a lot of flashbacks - they are mostly well done, and I never got lost between the now, and back then. They are vital to the dynamic of the story, which focuses heavily on Mike's past in that house, his teen summers there, his first sexual encounters, and the interactions of his family as he grew up. I did wish for a few more of Mike and Dan - those were the ones that added warmth and love to the picture. And in particular, I'd have loved to see more than one where Mike was Dan's rock and support, for balance. A few of the family recollections felt superfluous.Dan is wonderful, strong, sweet, protective, sexy, patient, and could have used a flaw or two. Or better yet, some moments when the suffocating press of dozens of strangers in this emotionally wrought situation made him need Mike's help and comfort. Throughout the book, he is the adult who shelters Mike from all things, and I adored him a bit too much, because I wanted Mike to grow up to act worthy of him, even in this situation. A couple of story lines were introduced but then didn't reach the intensity I expected. The end is warm but a bit low-key. So over all, a book that did keep me reading, with some very real if unsympathetic family dynamics. Two MCs whose moments of love and affection, especially in flashbacks away from the family, were warm and sweet, but who felt mismatched in maturity by the end of the story. Hopefully as they drive away from Sugar Creek, Mike will find his adult center again, and give Dan back some of what he has unstintingly been giving Michael throughout this story.

  • jules0623
    2019-03-14 00:54

    The overwhelming number of flashbacks annoyed the hell out of me (and I'm someone who never minds flashbacks in books) and what's with the constant hitting and kicking? How OLD are these people?It dragged quite a bit. By the halfway point, I was only hanging on to see Jessie (and what a letdown that big 'secret' was) turn up at the funeral and then... it ended. I thought the book was full of bullies and I was left annoyed by the ending but relieved when I finally finished.

  • Ryes
    2019-03-07 06:48

    It's All Relative is hard to describe, because it's not exactly romance, but it's not exactly a coming of age story either. Michael Knapp, the main character, is comfortable with who he is and where he is in life. It's All Relative is more about redefining and strengthening relationships.I have a love/hate relationship with the main character. During the stay at Sugar Creek, Michael is extremely disrespectful and insensitive towards everyone else, but he blames his odd behavior on grief. And when he's not being a jerk, he's being a drama queen. Every little thing seems to be stretched out of proportion for him and I questioned his mental stability. I'm somewhat willing to excuse him. I've never gone through a situation like his where he has to deal with not only the death of a loved family member, but also coming out to his mother who doesn't welcome the news.But every time I get upset with him, I fall in love all over again when he remembers what life used to be like at Sugar Creek. In his memories, he's almost like a different person than who he is now. He sounded very fun and I liked reading how he used to be with Dan, and his aunts and friends. I also welcomed his memories as a good way to take a break from Michael's current situation. I'm glad that near the end he's able to realize how his behaviors are affecting other people.But when I reread this story, it'll be because of Dan. I admire his character. He's an army brat but he's kind and loyal. He's someone you'd want as a friend, and if it wasn't for him, Michael might not have gotten through it all. I am in awe at how he stuck with Michael even when Michael was being a jerk. He understands so much and it's great to read about a character like him.Snyder handles relationships beautifully and I would be glad to recommend It's All Relative based on this alone. All her characters are flawed and it's great to see them react to and understand each other. If anything, you can't judge the characters in this book based on first impressions. They have amazing depth and dynamic. I highly recommend this book!Review first posted at Rainbow ReviewsPURCHASE LINKS: PAPERBACK | E-BOOK

  • Tinnean
    2019-03-22 03:41

    JM did an amazing job, because as screwed up as this family is, she's made me care about them. I wonder if Aunt Jessie will ever come back into Michael's life. Will Michael remember to find that bottle of Aunt Evie's perfume and take it home with him and Dan?I want to know what happens to Ray and Steven. Does Ray ever get out of the apartment above the garage? Does Steven finds a love of his own?In answer to all these questions, I sincerely hope so.

  • Shaztwirl
    2019-03-17 01:43

    I was hooked. Yes, I really enjoyed this book but a few observations. 1. Don't go looking for a plot. This is a totally character driven story, about a man, his boyfriend, family and rather large extended family preparing for the funeral of the family matriarch.2. Really, shouldn't a 26 year old man be past the stage where it's acceptable to punch and get into physical fights with your sister who is 10 years younger?3. That ending, though!

  • Hans Hirschi
    2019-02-26 00:57

    Every family has its daemons to deal with and large gatherings have a tendency to bring out the worst in us. This tale of coming out, love, sorrow and family is one of the best I've ever read!You get quickly drawn into the story, and worry about our protagonist and his partner. A great read!

  • Shelley Chastagner
    2019-03-12 08:41

    While this is a M/M novel it is not a romance in per se. It's about growing up, transitioning from a child to an adult in the eyes of your family and yourself. Michael comes across as immature to me much of the first two-thirds of the book. He's slipped into the role his family has created for him and he is once again a 10 year old. With all the juvenile behavior that goes with being 10. Traveling to an unexpected family funeral he is faced with mortality, bigotry, his own selfishness and is trying to deal with all the emotions of losing someone he loved deeply. Someone who saw him, not who they wanted him to be. Facing his father's indifference and being able to speak of a need for recognition and acceptance was his first step. Watching him grow emotionally enough to face his mother with strength and grace while keeping his stance that he is not in a "phase" was amazing. He begins to see his siblings as more as well. They are people with needs and pain of their own. He also has to deal with the fact that a childhood friend has been waiting for a chance at a relationship that is more than friendship. Dan is by far my favorite character. He loves Michael in the deepest sense of the word. He will do anything to protect him and see him happy. He's knocked off kilter by the emotional wreck that Michael becomes. When Michael shuts him out emotionally their relationship becomes strained. Michael sees that it is his own doing that is causing the pain around him and he draws further into himself. Dan finally drags him away from the turmoil and demands that Michael open up to him. He promises to be with him every step, every moment, to be his strength and protection. This is Dan and it comes across again and again through out the book. While there are plenty of spicy moments, sex isn't the catalyst for the plot. Adult read

  • Sara
    2019-03-17 08:38

    The bullying made me a bit uncomfortable. Especially when it came to Ray. The characters in the story made it clear that he "wasn't all there" and I didn't see why they were so mean to him. He didn't really do anything that warranted how they treated him and from what I read he only said mean things back when the others were picking on him. I didn't really like any of the characters. I thought Dan was going to be my favorite until he started in on the be mean to Ray bandwagon. It was weird since he had only known Ray for a few days.The Jessie part of the story was what kept me reading. Firstly, because I wanted to know why the older women of the family didn't want anyone to talk about her. That reason ended up being disappointing. Then, secondly, because I wanted to see if she'd go to the funeral and what would happen if she did. I ended up being disappointed again.The flashbacks and how they were put into the story were distracting. It was hard to tell when it was the past and when it was present time.

  • Kari Gregg
    2019-03-20 07:05

    If you've ever wondered (& perhaps secretly hoped) you were adopted or switched at birth, this is the story for you. In a loving and committed relationship with soldier Dan Biggs, Michael Knapp decides it's finally time to come out to his family. Within minutes of spilling the proverbial beans at the dinner table, though, the family gets word of Aunt Evie's death and the lot of them (including Dan) drive to rural Pennsylvania for the funeral.Dan is absolutely delicious in his care of and attention to Michael who's all over the map emotionally after Evie's death and his family's response to his coming out. The family dynamic is at times outlandish, funny and catches at your heart. This is a care/comfort story and J.M. Snyder delivers beautifully.An emotionally gripping book. I stayed up til 4am reading -- on a work night, no less. You won't get much higher of a recommend from me than that.

  • Tj
    2019-03-25 08:06

    This story was humorous in parts and moving in others. Mike is facing the death of a loved one right after coming out to his parents with his partner at his side. Dan is a man that is too good to be true. He is patient, loving and uber-protective. Mike is in an overwhelmed emotional state during the whole of this book. The story is a little slow moving and Mike makes the same mistakes over and over. I'm sure that is because of his emotional state but still he just never learns. I enjoyed the whole of the story even if I struggled with it.

  • Charlene Harris
    2019-02-27 00:56

    It kept me there. Pulled me into its depths until I finished reading. You get involved with the MC's and desperately want to know what is going to happen next. How things are going to play out. It will surprise, irritate and over-joy you. Loved it.

  • J.M.
    2019-02-24 08:52

    This is my book so I'm not going to write a review.

  • Elaine
    2019-03-09 04:40

    A different story by J.M. Snyder; only one problem the character of Michael, acts as if he's a child, instead of a man of 25. All-in all a good story. It was well written, and I enjoyed it.

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  • Lee
    2019-03-25 03:56

    Couldn't finish. Moved to the DNF shelf.

  • *Nan*
    2019-02-28 01:41

    3.5 stars

  • Heather K (dentist in my spare time)
    2019-03-22 01:38

    Paperback on sale through the publisher for $2.50! 8/11/13!

  • Katrina
    2019-03-01 06:44

    First Read win. This really isn't something I read. Well it was a first. It was pretty good. Will be passing this along to a friend to read.

  • cmbookdiva
    2019-03-24 02:38

    Wow! I loved every word every sentence of this wonderful love story of Dan and Mike. I will be retreading this again and again. After I read the sequel of course.